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Mina The Dreamer's avatar

I am at my happiest and best when majority of my time is either spent alone or with immediate family who understand the importance of my need to work in isolation. Also that photo at of the one brave soul at the Nazi rally always strikes a cord.

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Rinnegan Shema's avatar

This came in time for me to reject a drink.

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DAN KOE's avatar

Love it man. I love myself a few espresso martinis but the second it impacts something important, it's a no go

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Rinnegan Shema's avatar

+250785161313

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Raghav's avatar

Immensely relatable !! Great article

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Tam Nguyen's avatar

For years, I thought something was wrong with me. I felt like an outsider because I didn’t have a hobby I obsessed over on nights and weekends, I was somehow missing something.

But that couldn’t be further from the truth.

I’ve realized I find purpose in other places. In meaningful work. In time with family. In building something I’m proud of. And that’s more than enough.

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Ink & Heritage's avatar

Fantastic post. This has been a recurring issue in my life, daughter of immigrants trying to please everyone. It doesn't work. You please no one and you lose yourself in the process.

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Marko Schmitt's avatar

Being agreeable, especially when you go against your gut, is a form of suicide.

Other people have their own needs and agendas - why trade yours for theirs, even to get along?

Better to jealously, selfishly, guard your time and attention for your own vision and purpose. This is what your genius wants of you.

Great piece Dan!

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Profound Ideas's avatar

I've come to realize my head needs alone time. Being around people prevents me from being able to filter and flush out negative or irrational thoughts. Being alone shapes me.

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Virgin Monk Boy's avatar

Conflict isn’t the enemy. Illusion is. And most people would rather be liked than live.

We’re taught to be agreeable because it keeps the empire running. Smile, nod, contribute to the GDP, and die without making a scene. But spiritual evolution is inherently disagreeable. Ask the prophets. Ask the mystics. Ask your own nervous system the next time you say “yes” when your soul is screaming “please, God, no.”

Dan, you're speaking the truth most gurus are too well-branded to admit: You can’t bend reality if you’re still trying to blend in.

Being pleasant is easy when you’re asleep. But when you wake up and realize your life has been outsourced to algorithms, exes, and corporate Kool-Aid? Yeah. You’re going to piss some people off. Good.

You don’t need to start Apple. You just need to stop asking for permission to want what you want.

So go ahead. Be disagreeable. Not cruel, not careless—but convicted.

Monks didn’t retreat because they were passive. They left because the world bored them.

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Elias Afram's avatar

I remember a time when I get into a military following a path that wasn't my choice I was told by my environment to get that job get monthly paycheck and have some social "securities" but not a single day in my 12 year military career I was convinced of that path. I didn't knew what I want but I knew inside I was meant for more than a secure job! So I've built something for my own it's been a year and few months since I started my one person Marketing agency and still going! You made me remember with this post how I am truly different from the society am in from my friends and people I know That don't have the same vision as I do though it's not easy but you truly hit a cord when you said being a creator is the path for freedom because I knew am different from most other people! Thank You Dan!

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Amy Cuevas Schroeder's avatar

Another gem!

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Leanne Hughes's avatar

Bloody brilliant read this week, Dan. Spot on take that being disagreeable is really being uncompromising on what you want. And that’s ok 👏 (actually, the only 2 things I end up compromising with are my two dogs but I’m happy to be a slave to their every whim 🤣🤣)

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Chetna Sodhi's avatar

Hi Dan, when is the next Buisness launch pad expected to start . X

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POTB's avatar

Qabalistically, you cannot have Chesed without Geburah. No build without destroy.

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Kelsey Schaefer's avatar

When I started living in accordance with the ME I want to be, I watched people leave my life. Friends, family members. People got uncomfortable with me willing to call out what didn't make sense to me.

My social circle has dwindled, but I feel like I'm closer than ever to becoming the person I was put on this earth to be.

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Nina, The Marketing Muse's avatar

I wonder if you are a manifestor in Human Design. Have you ever checked your chart? I can do a free reading for you if interested.

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Dododens's avatar

Great article.

Thank you.

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