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Mina Cicconi's avatar

I am at my happiest and best when majority of my time is either spent alone or with immediate family who understand the importance of my need to work in isolation. Also that photo at of the one brave soul at the Nazi rally always strikes a cord.

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Rinnegan Shema's avatar

This came in time for me to reject a drink.

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DAN KOE's avatar

Love it man. I love myself a few espresso martinis but the second it impacts something important, it's a no go

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Rinnegan Shema's avatar

+250785161313

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Raghav's avatar

Immensely relatable !! Great article

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Ink & Inheritance's avatar

Fantastic post. This has been a recurring issue in my life, daughter of immigrants trying to please everyone. It doesn't work. You please no one and you lose yourself in the process.

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Basil's avatar

it's easier to say no once you have a vision you're willing to fight for

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Ademoye Abdurrahman's avatar

You gettin there brother.. it helpful!

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Huzaifa's avatar

Never feel bad for saying a deserving "NO".

I did and it's not worth it.

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The thinker's avatar

The ability to disagree is important, but a contrarian identity and as your article later suggests, manipulative identity, is an extremely dangerous message to put out into the world.

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Elias Afram's avatar

I remember a time when I get into a military following a path that wasn't my choice I was told by my environment to get that job get monthly paycheck and have some social "securities" but not a single day in my 12 year military career I was convinced of that path. I didn't knew what I want but I knew inside I was meant for more than a secure job! So I've built something for my own it's been a year and few months since I started my one person Marketing agency and still going! You made me remember with this post how I am truly different from the society am in from my friends and people I know That don't have the same vision as I do though it's not easy but you truly hit a cord when you said being a creator is the path for freedom because I knew am different from most other people! Thank You Dan!

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Sam's avatar

@DAN KOE HEY FATTY. HOW DO I TAKE AN ENTIRE CHAT AND SAVE IT INTO A DOCUMENT? (ALSO IF THAT DOESN’T EXIST, PLEASE ADD IT.)

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Nandita Sharma's avatar

I only get angry when I am hungry after gym or someone wastes my time. I relate to this so much

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Carlos Lopez's avatar

Thank you for the very clear and deep thoughts!

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Vanam Krish's avatar

Feels illegal to get this info for free

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Amy Cuevas Schroeder's avatar

Another gem!

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Autumn Enoch's avatar

I have to mention/recommend The Charisma Myth (feels like something you've already read, Dan!) to everyone reading this newsletter! The author hits on some of these topics similarly and mentions Steve Jobs a lot as well. Overall an amazing read with plenty of actionable takeaways, some of which were truly profound. No theory, all practical. If you like Dan Koe's newsletter + materials, you'll like The Charisma Myth. :)

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Basil's avatar

adding this to my tbr!

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Barry Winata's avatar

there’s something to be said about strategic disagreeability

it’s actually a skill and no one likes a sheep especially when big decisions have to be made

being disagreeable means you have something to stand for whether people like it or not

for better or for worse, you’ll be respected for it.

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