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Brett Wood's avatar

I can't express how much I needed this letter at this point in my life. Thank you!

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Daniel Stouffer's avatar

Absolutely, fantastic.

Mistakes are nature's compass.

If happiness can't exist without sadness, success can't exist without failure.

It is a universal law. A pattern of reality. A phenomenon that has been around since the first sign of life, because something can't exist without nothing.

I'm living this quest in my journey. These 12 rules resonate.

Thanks,

Daniel

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David Mwewa's avatar

A blueprint for a fulfilling life.

Amazing work here Dan.

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Chris Fawthrop's avatar

"Because most people have been tricked into thinking they want "freedom." Absolute freedom is synonymous with absolute chaos. The only reason you think you want freedom is because you're living by a set of rules you didn't create."

People want autonomy, not freedom. They want the limits they set on themselves, not those externally imposed.

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Veronica Quinn's avatar

Interesting take, Chris. Though I’d argue autonomy can’t exist without some foundation of freedom. You need enough freedom to choose your own limits before you can call them self-imposed. Absolute freedom collapses into chaos, agreed, but absolute constraint collapses autonomy altogether. The sweet spot: freedom as the raw material, and autonomy as the craft of shaping it.

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The Renaissance Philosophy's avatar

The definition of freedom is the ability to act, think or speak without hinderance or restraint. So I'd agree with Veronica that freedom is the foundation of autonomy. Freedom is willful devotion. It's the choice to who or what we give ourselves over to. It's why Jocko can say things like discipline equals freedom. Those words seem like their in opposition when really they're linked.

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Tiza Brian's avatar

Dan always delivers. Thanks for this.

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Caden's avatar

It's wild to me that at 25 I have actually already learned every one of those things. Something clicked in college and slightly after that I learned to embrace everything you just mentioned. However I've never seen it all succinctly in one place before. Thanks for that. I'm saving this so I have a singular sound board to return to for all these big thoughts in my head.

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Rowan Rubus's avatar

Be careful, changing your life does not automatically mean it will be for the better.

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Uncle Nathan's avatar

Oftentimes the vision of change and the process of change are much further apart than we anticipate, and that can be very off putting for some.

The concepts here are true now and have been true for centuries, but we have found it increasingly hard to actually put them into practice.

In a world with so many options, to choose one path and stick to it is true strength.

But what’s stronger?

To recognise that the path no longer serves you and to pivot away from that path, even if it means retracing some of your steps.

It is never too late to reinvent yourself. Yes, it will hurt more than you can prepare for, but the beauty of being human is - you can and will get through it anyway.

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Bold Fox's avatar

This one was beyond timely for me. Thank you, Dan! Somehow you manage to organize my thoughts for me.

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Maja Berić's avatar

"Man is the only animal for whom his own existence is a problem which he has to solve." - Erich Fromm

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Roberto Kalinovskyy's avatar

This reminds me to the book of 12 rules of life from J Peterson. You can do your own version !

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Puzzle of Wisdom's avatar

Perfect!

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bakary Gitteh's avatar

Thanks for the beautiful message

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Aparna's avatar

Brilliant.

I need to figure it out. I need to figure it out.

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Elise Skibik's avatar

Mistakes are nature’s compass

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Max Lieberman's avatar

It seems like this is the frame of perception needed to facilitate everything else in life.

It's the foundation that allows everything else to fall into place. Without it, we're just chasing shiny objects with no idea of why. It's the transition from outcome orientation to true process orientation.

Love it Dan, thanks for sharing!

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